Hi all!
I am so upset and lost. I have been in a relationship for over ten years with my boyfriend. I haven't always been happy. He suffers bipolar and is OCD and that is a tough combination to live with!
I feel like I am always bossed around and told what to do. I tell him how unhappy I am over this and he turns it around to be something I did wrong.

In 2010, I had enough and left him in the middle of the night. After a month of being separated, he coaxed me into returning, promising this and that and to change.
Fast forward seven years. The same stuff is happening. I am in some horrible time loop. We will be great for a month or two, and then he snaps. He is paranoid and thinks I am "up to no good", or "sneaking around". I now work with him full time and live with him and sadly we are now to one car, too. I don't know why he doesn't trust me! He says he thinks I am having online relationships and talking bad about him.

I just don't know what to do. He tells me that because I left the way I did, he is hurt and is afraid I will leave like that again.
In fact, we are fighting today over this nonsense. It is his birthday and I purchased him a truck. It is in the shop getting fixed and ready. I wanted to surprise him. He was in my office and my phone rang. It was the auto mechanic. I didn't want to ruin the surprise, so I told him they must have called the wrong number. ANYWAY! He still hasn't talked to me since this, after four hours. I ended up telling him about the truck to diffuse the situation and still, he claims I am "acting weird". I feel as if I am on a roller coaster all the time. I just don't know how to get his trust. He says he trusts me, but then he is paranoid if I am not with him or if I get a phone call or whatever. What can I do?!?!

Desperate for advice!
Danielle