For a long time, I would use the "good days" as a reason to stay; that maybe things weren't so bad. I was totally fooling myself, because it would start right up again.

Sometimes there is projection. If I was five minutes late getting home because my bus was behind schedule, my ex would sniff me up and down at the door and ask, "Who is she?" There was nobody.

She was doing this because she was sleeping with her first ex-husband in exchange for cash.

Guilt can cause finger-pointing. If he doesn't trust you, then maybe it's because you should have a valid reason for not trusting him.