I had a situation last Christmas with the woman who lived upstairs from me. We had an issue where she had done something very mean spirited and lied to me about it. When I had the proof and confronted her with the proof that she had done this thing, she said she had done it, but then lied about another part of the story.

I was very angry with her and just could not understand what she was thinking at the time and why should would have done such a thing. I still have not been able to figure it out, but believe me, I don't waste anymore time on it.

Anywho, what I'm trying to get at is this, I did send her a Christmas card. I did not expect to hear back from her (which I didn't) She knew she was wrong and she could not face me. That was her problem, not mine. I wrote in it that even though what she did was wrong and that it was hateful, I still wished her a Merry Christmas to her and her family. She obviously has some issues that make her do what she does.....I know I cannot control that....but I can control what is in my heart. And my heart tells me that no matter who hurts me, I do not have to be spiteful, I do not have to allow them to hurt me anymore and I can still spread goodwill towards those who I feel have done wrong to me.

I have found that when I let go of the hurt and the anger, I have lots more room inside me to feel love and to support those I care about. I would much rather be filled with that than with pain and anger.

I think, if I were you, I would send the card without expectations of her "coming around" and sending you one back or wanting to have more contact with you. Just knowing in your heart that you wish her a Merry Christmas without strings attached can help you heal from this rift. If by chance she does contact you and you wish to continue the relationship, then that's a bonus

Wishing you well and a very Merry Christmas!


sabby