Part of AA is making amends for wrongs we haves done. But in some circumstances, we cannot make those amends in person or even at all to those people. There are other things th at can be done in place of going to the people and making the amends, but that is step 9, and there are 8 steps that need to be done before it to truly be ready and understand, according to AA.

For people that don't follow AA, I'm not really sure how it's done. There is confession within the church, there's what you did here, and other things. One thing that AS does teach is that when we are truly ready to make the amends, the person will show up. Basically, the idea that when you are ready, you'll run into them. These days, there is Facebook as well.

One thing I have done to help myself release something that has haunted me is to write it down on a paper and attach it to a balloon and let it go or even burn the paper and watch the smoke float off.

Notg sure if that helps at all...