Wow , the thoughts expressed in this thread are very enlightening.
It's probably one of the most insightful threads I've ever seen here.
So much wisdom. I can ID so very much with what has been said.
Back to the original poster. I'm dealing with the same situation only in a family,
not in a volunteer job , ( which BTW , in short , I think you should tell your " boss" to kiss your ***
and take your generosity where it would be appreciated ! ) People like us are used by sycophants and leeches every day. Because they know you have feelings and would be a soft touch. I'm being used right now. They just take, take , and take some more until your drained , ( emotionally and monetarily).
Like you I'm trying to gather the courage to stick up and give to ME !
First , my feelings will not be discarded. I just have to learn how to control them
and act appropriately with also the input of the LOGICAL part of my brain , ( which I should use more often! )
Secondly, they say you really give to make yourself feel better , not to really help the other. I think this is only partially true. I give for both reasons.
In closing, if anyone would like to have a private discussion about this issue I think maybe we can both help each other.
Thank you all.......