Ummm.....I don't need a lecture on expressing myself in my own thread. I don't think suggesting rational thought is hurtful - it is like suggesting you wear a seat belt. It's a safety issue. Emotional safety.

What makes my heart ache is seeing so many people feeling such love/pain for their T's. I've been there. It is dangerous and unbearably painful at times.

What I see here is people in that same boat ENCOURAGING each other to continue in this manner rather than asking - where is this leading? How much time a day do you think about your T? Is this healthy? Is it helping your mental state? Does it impact your work? Your marriage? Do you sometimes feel obssesed?

Getting into this type of situation myself screwed me up royally. It cost me emotionally and financially. I simply don't want anyone else to suffer.

Campy