Well, she'll toss out phrases like "You might be angry with me about XYZ." or "It's understandable that expressing your anger seems dangerous, given your past, but maybe we can think about how you did/said ABC because deep down you're mad". So she's pretty direct about trying to make sure I know there's space for my anger. Problem is most if the time, I don't feel angry, but I'm slowly becoming a little more aware.