Good thing no one can stop someone else's suffering :-)

But your experience of being screwed up is very valuable, Campy and "supportive" in that it's a different experience so gives a wider point of view. There's nothing wrong with telling that and asking questions it's only in being "judgmental" and stating that "everyone" in love with their T's will have the same outcome or experience that you had or should make decisions and deal with it the same or differently than you did.