Perna, I have OCD and I hate the unanswerable questions that swirl in my head. People who have pure obsessional OCD are miserable with these thoughts. Pure obsessional people need to accept that some questions will never have answers as a cognitive behavior coping skill.

GeeN, you mention morality and sin in your post, so may I assume you have a religious faith? If it's Christian, it's not the amount or degree of sin a man or woman commits that matters--we all fall short of the Glory of God. As Jesus explains, a man who lusts in his thoughts after a woman has committed adultery just like a woman who actually has an affair. In the Christian faith, there is no ranking system--we're all equal in the eyes of God.

I just finished the book, "Tormenting Thoughts and Secret Rituals" by a psychiatrist who himself struggles with obsessions. The author explores many related topics including religion. What does it matter if you have a 'fixation' or 'obsession'? You sound miserable no matter what label you throw on it. You have a therapist. Do you have a psychiatrist? Ask to take an OCD test. I just don't think it is healthy to ask all these questions on the forum because it just reinforces your obsessions or fixation. Focus on the problem (coping) rather than the content (adultery). Just my two cents. . .