I just want to be clear here, the text was in no way abusive or disrespectful towards her. I just asked her to cancel all future sessions and that I was never coming back because she doesn't understand me and failed to have any empathy when I was explaining something to her. She said it came out of nowhere and she felt side swiped. I think myself, she took it too personally. I agree with Lola, I should have wrote it down and brought it to her next session so we could process it, that would have been a healthy thing to do.
I did tell her that my ways of communicating are not always healthy, that I am learning and I am not perfect. I did apologise.

We didn't have much training around this and in all of my different training they said Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries and would encourage no contact between sessions. The only person who ever said what I liked and agreed with was janina fisher, she often gets angry texts and voicemails blaming her for everything, she said it's not personal and to try not to take it personally, people with severe trauma have trouble regulating their emotions and it's normal for them to lash out and she would be more interested in her empathic failure than my lashing out.