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Originally Posted by Trace14
You really need help with this. I hear what your saying and some of it resonates with me and from what I've learned. I do PE therapy , where we go over traumatic events over and over and kind of desensitize my emotions about it. It's hard, and even makes things worse but that's part of the process to healing. It's not easy and not suppose to be. What we are dealing with are traumas, not casual incidents. You really need to keep working with the T and understand this, you have to work through trauma, not around it. Otherwise you are wasting your time. I've wanted to give up several times but have made myself stay no matter how uncomfortable it is. I listen to the T and pretty much do what she asks, there's a lot of homework with this type of therapy. I hate it, but I want to feel better, so I do it.
I think a person has to be ready for therapy too. If you are not willing to put in the time and effort, and really work at it, then the therapy is not going to help. Some think that just showing up at the T's office and her waving a magic wand is going to change things, it's not. Actually they are not there to heal you. They help you work through the problems and give you tools to manage them. I learned this the hard way. Because I thought the just going to the T would heal me, and the T said I wasn't ready for therapy and I didn't have a clue what she meant because this was my first therapy experience. So that was a hard lesson learned. It made me mad and I thought I would never go back to another therapist. If she had explained it to me it would have been easier, but she didn't and I think it was for the best to look for another T.
I'm sharing this because I think you and I were a little alike in some of these therapy situations. I can not stress enough that you need to get a T to help you work thru this. You may be able to do it on your on but it doesn't seem to be working out to well for you. Plus a therapist will speed up the process, though it still may take a long time to work through all the traumas.
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Trace, I just wanted to say that I may have been going through PE therapy without even knowing it. It seems like the more trauma I go through, the less impactful the next one is. As you said I think I am becoming more desensitized to each successive trauma. As an example, my mom passed away a couple of weeks ago. I have been through quite a few trauma events in my life, my brother on the other hand hasn't been through nearly as much. He took my mom's passing much, much harder than I did. He, in fact, had to go into therapy for that one thing. Also, although, I can assure you, I do not have a death wish, I am not nearly so afraid of dying as is my brother. I have come to expect, and accept, it, and I don't even think about it. I think he doesn't expect it, but thinks about it too much. I think repetative exposure to trauma has a lot to do with it. No doubt faith has alot to do with it, as well. I am a true believer, he is not. Shalom.
