Not only do you need to be the adult and stop this "relationship" this "minister" has you trapped in.. you also need to notify his certification board of his actions. Even if he is not a licensed, by the state, counselor, someone has to be "over" him (and not just GOD) he is a member of a licensing board for the denomination. Don't feel as though you are causing problems, or that you are at fault in any way because you aren't. Please make yourself safe, and if you can, turn this person in so others who can't get away aren't hurt more!

(if not ordained or licensed, notify the police)