I think much of the problem is that I spend a lot of time feeling frustrated (and obsessing over that frustration) about things over which I literally have no control. I cannot control what other people say or do...

What I really want from other people is that they always treat me with respect and that they always at least try to understand my point of view.

What I can work on is dealing with the fact that people don't always treat others with respect... and I have to acknowledge that I've failed in that area as well. I can also work on ways to express my point of view, even when I am misjudged, and I can do that with patience and equanimity.