I think where Ts and people in general who don't have enough understanding of trauma fail is that it's nearly impossible to regulate dangerous feelings when you view the world as inherently unsafe and people as inherently unsafe. When I am angry at my T I already feel like she wants me dead just like my mother did. There IS no response that feels safe. For me thats the challenge. When I truly believe no one around me cares if I live, I go into survival mode. Relationships and the rules around them take a big back seat. I have often told my T that in those moments I feel like a cornered wild animal. I'll do whatever it takes to get somewhere safe, i.e. where no one is in relationship to me. But bc early abuse and all that, having no one doesn't feel safe either...