cyran0

I understand the method you describe of solving your disputes...just act like nothing ever happened..my wife does this...& as you describe yourself still stewing away(thats me), I over analyze things...where she just seems to forgive and forget without discussion...I want to talk out every detail....seems like it should be the other way around though...makes me feel to sensitive

I learned a long time ago....we are the men and they are the women...it don't matter who is right or wrong....just let it die..and you will be better off

My wife don't work and I still come home to her being stressed by the kids sometimes and one is in school most of the day now...but when I am home with them without her even half a day,and its to cold to take them outside to play...I can see where the frustration comes from, after each one wanting something every 5 minutes, or having to settle sibling rivalry disputes......it is tough on me
I admire her tolerance to this

Do you guy's ever take family vacations together?
This is something my wife looks forward to every year,taveling out of state to get away.You mentioned she was on vacation..but she probably dont feel like it stuck all day with the kids by herself.

On many weekends even if we are not on vacation when it's warm we go to a really nice near by lake to grill out,swim,play in the sand,there is all kinds of stuff for the kids,this gives us a chance to relax together and just watch the kids play.

We really don't have much in common since we are opposite, other than physical attraction and love, so communication is not that great between us if we do have a problem..so we just try to stay busy with activitys to keep from going nuts in the house.

Now that its getting cold we'll probably go skating,movies,bowling or what ever else we can think of..take the kids to hang out with friends who have children

all the above has helped us since before we had kids we really did not have any stress problems.

I only work 4 10hr days a week mon-thur and still come home feeling the way you described sometimes ..and we are lucky to get snow once a year that sticks more than a few days...and my commute to work is less than 15 minute's...so you probably have the right to unwind..makes me ashamed to feel the same sometimes

so I feel unworthy to give you advice but ....when it comes to women its best just to go along with whatever they want or feel is best...I can't win a argument about the color of the sky with my wife, if she says its pink...then by God it's pink..end of story

Sorry this stuff with your wife has you so down and out.....

Do you ever tell her you love her?.....after reading some of your other posts mabey she thinks you don't...I think you probably do and she or you should never doubt this in my opinion

sorry if that question crosses the line