campy, i'm not sure what you want us to do. just because you had a bad experience and had to stop therapy right in the middle of healing, you want us to "think with the rational part of our brain" and not get close with our therapist? If i listened to that advice, i'd sit in therapy with a wall between us. I wouldn't say anything for us to connect well for fear of getting close, and in turn having feelings of admiration, love, and everything you seem to think is wrong. That is not something that would work. The fact that you got close to your therapist is not what hurt you, its the fact that it stopped. These feelings are typically worked through, not worked on being prevented. You got defensive just because people were not agreeing with you and weren't changing their feelings, so don't get upset at everyone else for being defensive. We understand your experience, and are sorry for it, but it won't change how anyone of us feels towards our therapist. And even if it did, that would be wrong, because again, these feelings are crucial to the healing process, just like it is crucial to finish the process.