As some of you may remember, I had a dream last week about my T holding me in bed. He was wearing boxer shorts only. I shared this dream with him when there was only three minutes remaining in the session.

I had another session yesterday and we were discussing the primal scene and how I never really saw my parents as a "couple." We were laughing about how I was getting disgusted thinking about my parents having sex and the T stated that I pretty much get uncomfortable anytime we talk about sex.

At that point, I reminded him about the dream (which we had yet to talk about) and said, "Well that should pretty much open the doors to talking about sex." Then there was a silence and T said, "So what color boxers was I wearing?" And I told him, "Plain white!" And he repeated "plain white," while looking all reflective and amused as if in real life he wears boxers that look like abstract paintings or something.

Then I asked him a question about a statement he had said during the last session after I had initially told him about the dream. I had mentioned how I felt inappropriate having the dream and we were talking about boundaries or something (can't remember exactly what) and he said, "We just have to be careful." I have a history of not asking what he meant until much later on.

So I asked him yesterday. We talked about my desire to sexualize my relationshp with him (although cognitively I understand that this could and would never happen). We talked about how the desire to sexualize our relationship is an attempt to normalize it-- because that is what I'm used to from male intimacy and relationships in the past.

T said about the "being careful part"-- "it's not like we are going to jump on the couch and have wild sex" but rather it is about the importance for me to learn the difference between the male relationship with and without the sexual component. He said we have to be careful that those boundaries are clearly in place because of the intimate nature of our relationship.