no, this is absolutely not your fault.

i am sorry that you have had to experince this kind of treatment from someone who you should have been able to trust would have your best interest, as a client, in mind. she failed you on many counts, especially in the manner to which she ended the therapeutic relationship with you.

reading here on this forum, i see this time and time again, therapist who are not able to handle a client's strong negative feelings/reactions toward them. when the client gets the courage to speak their mind to their T, believing that it is safe to do so (and by all means it should be), the T often takes it personally instead of being able to step back and use it constructively as an opportunity to explore and try to understand the underlying issue, either from the Ts side or the clients. i reckon that this is what separates a good T from a bad T...unfortunately, there are a lot of not so good Ts out there.

i'm glad you got the opportunity to try to have proper closure with her. too bad it was you who had to instigate it instead of her. to me that clearly shows who is the more mature one in this situation...and it definitly is not the professional.