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Originally Posted by koru_kiwi
or perhaps it might just be that those people who have good experiences with therapy and have not been harmed are not dealing with as severe of issues as those who have had negative or harmful experiences???
from what i have noticed by reading these stories over and over again, is that many of the clients who have had adverse experiences tend to struggle more with very early childhood traumas, including cPTSD, developmental truama, sexual abuse, and attachment/abandonment issues. for me, this makes me question whether it has more to do with incompetency, Ts who are severely lacking in an extensive training and understanding to both the physiological and developmental damage that such early trauma can inflict upon young and developing brains. because of this lack of knowledge, these Ts are most likely (inadvertently and/ or ignorantly) causing more damage than good.
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I agree it has to do with competency; this is notably the personality of the the therapist, which is the primary factor of competency in my opinion. Personality/sense of self and character affects clients more than training, that's why it's essential for a therapist who works with the developmental/preverbal client population to have years of their own depth therapy.
Otherwise, the therapist gets enmeshed with the client, uses projection, has thick (counter) transferences that end up being harmful to the client, etc. Those of us who are well read about therapy or who have been in therapy with a competent therapist can see the red flags and avoid such therapists, but I and perhaps others, did not know this potential the first time around. In fact, I took the initiative to teach myself about therapy only AFTER being harmed by one. I was thrown completely off guard, never expecting that simply talking to a therapist could initiate all the repressed/dissociated trauma content that flooded my conscious.
Luckily, I have a competent therapist now; one who has done a few years of intense psychoanalysis on top of all his training, including Phd.