How can you fix 'it' when you don't know what 'it' is? Do you see yourself as a person to be irresponsible? Do you consider yourself as a person to be someone who gives off bad energy? You need more feedback.

As for things to do are there any groups you can join like a single ladies supper club, book club, bible study, movie matinee club or any other get togethers that might interest you?