Quote:
Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Just because someone tells you that you are not "their" type doesn't mean you are not good enough. Actually, when I went out with my friends, it was not a good thing if a friend was attracted to the same kind of guy I was attracted to. It was a lot more fun when my friends got to figure out the kind of guy I was attracted to and would say, "hey there is a guy that looks like your type". Yet, that never meant I thought other guys were ugly or not good enough. One thing I did worry about is if a friend had a big crush on some guy and he was more attracted to me than my friend. I had that happen a few times and it's SO awkward and it actually made my friend ANGRY with me and even consider me a threat.
Lots of famous actors are considered the be all and end all when in my opinion NO ATTRACTION on my part what so ever. So, just because a person doesn't find you attractive doesn't mean you aren't. The key is to find the one that does find you attractive that you also find attractive. So, that being said, let this one go because it's taking up too much space in your head and contributing to your having negative thoughts about yourself which is never healthy and is more often than not a total waste of your time and emotions.
|
Thank you - that helps. I guess it just surprised me as I know she thinks I am nice, that i'm good to her, and sweet. But she just doesn't want to see to commit to anything other than that. Even friendship is hard and in my opinion a slippery slope as she will one day be dating someone and that would crush me. I think with the feeling and attraction I had that it would be too hard to just be a friend.
But I just can't move on and don't know why. Like I try distracting myself - she comes up. I try exercising - she comes up. I go to an event - I wonder if I will run into her, etc. It's just a really strange feeling and I have no idea how to shake it.