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pinksoil said:
Erotic transference includes love-- real love feelings. The goal is for that transformation to occur-- for you to take that love for your T and use it elsewhere. It is not limited to only sexual feelings, although it often includes them.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">So does that mean that anyone who loves their T has erotic transference? Why don't they call it love transference then? Or just "love"? That "erotic" bit throws me for a loop. I thought it meant you wanted to have a romance or a fling with your T. That is not me. I love my T for who he is, it is genuine, I am not transferring love or sexual longings from a past experience/relationship onto him. I have never been jealous of my T and his partner, and I know it upsets some people here to think their T has a romantic interest of his/her own. That is so not me. I am happy my T is in a loving relationship and feel zero jealousy. (It actually gives me hope that one day in the future maybe I too will find love again, after my failed marriage.) My love for T is platonic and seems different from a physical love/longing. Does that still qualify as erotic transference? I do not see him as a parent either. I guess if I had to assign a relative's role to him, it would be a really, really close brother, one who is older and wiser and really helpful. And a non-relative role would be a really, really close friend, although he is so much more than a friend--he is my therapist!

I think I'm gonna keep calling it love....