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Originally Posted by Calilady
I have no experience with this, staying with a therapist long term, but this has to be my biggest fear. Getting attached to someone who, ultimately, is providing a service.
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It doesn't happen to everyone. For me, it's a pattern.
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Originally Posted by JoBo
It sounds like your T is cutting the apron strings & giving you a bit of a nudge. Dependency is not healthy for you in the long run. I do understand how you are feeling, but you will manage. You have been working on inner strength & resilience over the years which will help & support you through this. Have you told your T how much this hurts? I too went through a stage of thinking that my T was going to die. It was at a time when I was catastrophising a lot of stuff, but we just had to work through it. Have the discussion with your T as to why, as I'm sure your T will help you through this. Good luck.  |
Thanks, JoBo. Yes, my T and I have talked about separating almost from the start of my therapy! It was actually my goal, so I've failed. I've always gone from one T to another but this T is the only one to directly work on my attachment problems. I don't know what the "long run" is for me. It could be a "short run." I've become much more independent in my life since I lost my H almost 2 years ago. Recently T brought up my thinking about seeing her every 2 weeks but I've been reluctant to try it. When she stopped taking my insurance, I had to cut down, but when my H got sick, I went back to weekly. I will have to talk to her again. Last week I said none of my parts want to separate from her and she asked if there was a part of me who thought I should? I said yes, but I don't know why I can't see her until she retires ( she's in her middle 50's). I still have a lot to work on, new stuff, and the hour goes SO fast! I am going to discuss it again.
Besides, I like my T very much. I don't know why I have to give her up.