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Originally Posted by rainbow8
It doesn't happen to everyone. For me, it's a pattern.
Thanks, JoBo. Yes, my T and I have talked about separating almost from the start of my therapy! It was actually my goal, so I've failed. I've always gone from one T to another but this T is the only one to directly work on my attachment problems. I don't know what the "long run" is for me. It could be a "short run." I've become much more independent in my life since I lost my H almost 2 years ago. Recently T brought up my thinking about seeing her every 2 weeks but I've been reluctant to try it. When she stopped taking my insurance, I had to cut down, but when my H got sick, I went back to weekly. I will have to talk to her again. Last week I said none of my parts want to separate from her and she asked if there was a part of me who thought I should? I said yes, but I don't know why I can't see her until she retires ( she's in her middle 50's). I still have a lot to work on, new stuff, and the hour goes SO fast! I am going to discuss it again.
Besides, I like my T very much. I don't know why I have to give her up.
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Your T isn't withdrawing completely from you. She's just suggested cutting down. I cut down from twice a week to just once & I found it really hard. We had agreed that if necessary, I could have the extra session if I was struggling. I managed this for about 2 months but we found that I was beginning to shut him out. We are now back to twice a week again. However, I will be working towards dropping down to once a week again. When I've had the discussion with my T about ending therapy I cry. I can't ever imagine my life without him in it, but he tells me that once we've worked through the Transference, I will find for myself that I don't need him. (Again, at this moment in time, I can't see that!) I trust my T to do the best for me, even if I don't like what he suggests! It sounds to me like your T is doing the best thing for you.
