CyranO, If I were to try to tell you the secret to a succesful marriage, beyond communication and understanding,selflessness and sacrifice, or any other incredibly important relationship aspect, (which none of us does perfectly) the one thing most responsible for what I see as "the miracle" of my marital bliss is simply this...the third person in our marriage is Christ, he's the best marriage counseler there is! (and so reasonably priced)...I've seen him do so many amazing things in my life, with my wife and I's relationship, my finances, anything that I could manage to let him manage turned out. You seem like a very intelligent man, or one who can discern the truth from lies...test what i'm saying for yourself to know the reality of him! what can it hurt? perhaps the ego that would prevent you from doing this is the same one thats at work in your marriage?