I'm really sorry that he was so horrible and hurtful to you. It must have been devastating to receive those pics.



I would certainly say that texting someone over 100 times in three hours indicates some sort of problem. That volume of texting probably was a result of the drinking and being bored, as he said.

I don't know if the dirty pics relate to being drunk, or if the dirty pics, horrible to say, just reveal who he is right now.

I don't know if he is crying out for help. It isn't necessarily a cry for help when a person who is abusing substances behaves in a horrible manner.

In my opinion, women must not blame themselves when guys act horribly and totally inappropriately. His bad behavior was in no way your fault.

However, in this situation I think it would have been wise to be a bit more suspicious of him after he wanted you to come to his place. There are nice guys out there, but regrettably I think that one needs to vet carefully to identify them. In this situation I think it would have been best to say that you would be willing to hang out with him at a restaurant or some other public place.

I'm really sorry that this whole thing happened. He destroyed himself in your eyes.



If you are in touch with him again, I think it would be good to encourage him to seek help for his substance use. But beyond that it might be very hard, and take a lot of time, to get past the dirty pics. I'm really sorry that he treated you so badly.