I'm with you here Rainbow, what's the problem with keeping these people in our lives for as long as they are practicing in our area and we can afford financially to pay them? I'm almost 50 and my T is about 8 yrs younger than me. We are young enough that we could be in this relationship for some time to come. I am old enough to know that I don't have many people and probably won't have many people in my life that I can feel relaxed around. I do see my relationship with her changing and my visits dropping down to more like monthly check ins and catch ups. It's not just that I want to share with her what is going on in my life. I think there is a level of wanting to know that she is still doing ok --- hmmm possible light bulb moment here for me... maybe that fantasy still stems from wanting to know that I have someone that is there to take care of me if I need it. So, if I continue to see her at least on a monthly level, I can check on her health and well being - yep she is still there physically and physically still capable of taking care of me. And I am connected enough to her that I can feel comfortable being around her, sharing with her my inner self; that she is still in my inner circle. I think there is something here for me.

Anyway... My thoughts, if she is not pushing you out, I don't see why you couldn't keep seeing her at whatever level is not interfering with the other aspects of your life (including financial goals).