I can' say this any other way YOUR BF IS A JERK. He has to see the pain it brings you. You are normal he is not. He is selfish you can't have it both ways. I went out of my mind trying to understand how my ex-wife expected to be able to have two families your divorced. He probably has kids with her so there is going to be communication between them. A sleep over is way out of line. Don't torture yourself. You are very normal.