Just curious, since we all go through rejection and even being befriended out of obligation or pity, which would you prefer? I know they are both very unpleasant and everyone would prefer to have neither, but if you had to pick one, which would you prefer to deal with? I would pick rejection because, although yes it feels terrible and it makes you feel dumb, unwanted, and depending on the situation, may even make you look bad, I feel like in a sense, people who reject you are being more honest than those who befriend you out of pity or obligation. When someone rejects you, they are basically saying they don't want anything to do with you or don't want you around them, at least not at that particular moment.

On the other hand, being befriended out of obligation or pity is a sign of deceitfulness since the person, whether they realize it or not, is playing with your emotions. While the person who was befriended thinks a great friendship is going on between the two, the person who did the befriending out of obligation or pity is secretly wishing they could be with other people they like better and secretly want to get away. I have dealt with this before and I hate being befriended out of pity or obligation. That is why I would take rejection over being befriended out of obligation or pity. At least those who reject you are basically being honest about how they feel, even though it is a horrible feeling. What do you guys think? Just curious.