This is pretty much exactly what I was thinking. Her calling you "rude" is also not appropriate, let alone the door slamming and sarcasm. Therapy *is* supposed to be all about the client. Both my T and marriage counselor have told me before that I shouldn't worry about their feelings (even though I do).

I also get the sense that your T doesn't know how to handle attachment issues. I have strong paternal transference and attachment for my marriage counselor and rather than pushing me away/referring us out, he's been helping me work through it (while generally trying to stay within the boundaries of marriage counseling). Transference/attachment tends to bring up stuff from childhood, and recognizing and working on those issues it brings up can be helpful (though painful and difficult at times).

Also, I've apologized to my individual T before about bringing up the same issues again, and she has said that's very typical for the same things to keep coming up again and again in therapy. She also says it's my therapy, and we can talk about anything I want.

I think you need a new therapist, who can handle attachment, who is familiar with LGBTQ issues, and who understands that therapy is about the client's feelings and concerns, not hers.