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Originally Posted by will19
I feel like I go through isolation myself, it's not my ultimate choice. There are lots of times when I appreciate my aloneness. I fortunately get along great with my co workers, though there are a couple that are a problem. As they say, "there always has to be that someone!". When I get home from work, I don't feel like talking to anyone for about two hours.
I go to the pool area at where I live and I would have hope of meeting someone. Most times when I go there, I'm by myself. Almost every time that there would be someone else there, I feel like I can't stand them. It's very isolating at where I live because I have nothing in common with my neighbors.
In my life lately, the only choice I have is either to be alone or be with bad company. It's great to be with people I enjoy being with; but it seems like it's too far and in-between if it can happen at all.
I get what you mean by people using you for your kindness. I'm an easy going type person and I feel like there are some who would come along to walk all over me if they can. I also feel like, in order to have a fairly good social life, I have to put myself out for others and they will not do the same for me. For an example: with my friend I have to drive out to his place only if I want to see him. I'm not crazy about doing that. And then with my sister, she expects me to visit her every year, while I have to pay for the air fare. She cannot come and visit me. I don't think that's fair.
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I agree with you. Just an observation here, it sounds like your friend and sister are the exact same kind of people we both stay away from. In my opinion, if a froend or family member truly care, they would make an equal effort. Not dogging your friend or sister, but it's pretty sad when people want but aren't willing or they're too lazy to make an effort.