Hi and welcome to PC!

I live in a house that my abusive ex-fiance picked out. A lot of bad things happened here. I still live here because I can't afford all the maintenance needed to bring this place back to a selling point.

I live here with my husband, daughter and her boyfriend. We're letting the kids use the upper floor as their space while they're going to college and working, so they can save money to move out. Once they are gone, we're going to get the place renovated and sell it. I'm going to sell it at a loss anyhow because I bought before the housing market crash in 2006.

For the time being we've added touches to make the place more "ours". We've repainted, and turned the sunroom area into a home office. I'm thinking of repainting the master bedroom. We have our pictures and wedding stuff in the living room.

What helped the most, though, was going to therapy and deal with the feelings about my ex-fiance and the abuse that occurred. With that I was able to start letting go hating the house and at least tolerate it. I still get torqued off about it--right now the roof is leaking and we found out it wasn't installed correctly--but it's not the house's fault.