Pinks comment caught my interest because the term erotic transference imply sexual feelings to me. I do not have any such feelings for my T. I think I would have experienced confusion or at least thought about this concept if there had been physical contact between us. I admit I am a bit of a freak who often confuses (at least initially) physical contact with a sexual advance. I likely would not have handle this confusion well considering my anxiety about therapy to begin with. But thankfully there hasn't been so this is not a problem.

Here another question regarding Perna's link.

This is a quote from sci.psychology newsgroup Perna shared above
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I think that in large part being in love is an effort to recover (or recapitulate) the relationship that the very young child had with his parents. (I am referring here to the initial stages of being in love, perhaps often better described as infatuation.)

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So making a major assumption here that this statement is in fact true. Would a child who did not experience this earlier parental love have difficultly participating in the erotic love later in life?