I think real coping means doing the positive things you listed. I don't think escaping is an example of not coping, it's using distraction to cope. I'm guessing what your T might have meant was learning to handle your feelings without si'ing. for me that means coming on line and writing about how I feel, curling up with something soft and crying, or sometimes just sitting with a cup of tea and thinking about how I'm feeling. Remember feelings will pass, no matter how intense they are at the time and you are not your feelings. you can get through things without having to si.

--splitimage