Fuzzy, I'm going to be real with you. What you endured, there's no "getting over" that. What you went through, the trauma, it was real and it impacted you through early development.
Somebody took me aside once and made me stand in front of his kid (who was around six or seven). He stood me in front of the kid and asked, "Does this kid deserve corpral punishment for spilling a glass of milk?"

"No"

"He's nearly an adult, can't he take it?"

"He's a kid"

"What was that?"

"He's a kid. He doesn't deserve that ****."

"So when you were this old, what did you deserve? You were his age. Did you deserve what had happened?"

I'll let you think about what that answer is.