Why would you want a man who does this? How could you ever trust him to not do it to you?

He's disobeyed his church rules.
He's disallowed the rules of marriage.
He's shamed himself. and all those who trusted him to do good work.
He's denegrated his wife's love.
He's used his power over you for his sexual desires.
AND he's lied to God.

You think this is love?

I know it hurts to try and think that one has been used. This is a no-win situation already. Take care of yourself, ok? Talking to his wife may do nothing, he sounds like a smooth talker who has done this to other women in his church. You have become another of his trophies. Sorry... please get out before you are hurt more.