Yes when I was being abused everyone would say that. But it just wasn't that simple. But when I realized I couldn't get out of my situation quickly I decided I had no choice but to comply completely and take it. But I was darn close to quitting. Once my parents passed and I got an inheritance if my boss hadn't been about 3 years from mandatory retirement, I would have been gone.

I have a friend who is being abused now but, she also had a stubborn streak and refuses to comply and she keeps getting hit for it. Also, I have given her ways out and she stubbornly gave them to her co worker assuming that co worker would leave and she could take his job -- when the reality is that won't happen.

My one suggestion and I have made it on here before is a temporary agency. If you get a long enough assignment -- over 8 weeks -- and many are-- you can qualify for unemployment and make that last for a long time by doing other temp assignments. It isn't perfect but it is a good port in a storm.