I am sorry you have gone through so much abuse--that is the real problem.

It is perfectly natural that your friend got involved with someone else in his country. That is the downside about our online friends--the connections are very real in some ways but don't always translate IRL. Sometimes I feel like I live in two worlds--an online one and my IRL one. In my opinion, if you don't have good IRL friends then online connections are better than having no one at all. People need to have friends.

I am sorry you lost him. Having had so many misunderstandings must make it so much harder. I know it is not easy but I think you should try to move on even though it hurts. Hopefully, time will make it less painful. I am sorry you can't socialize. Work on getting a job/becoming financially independent. If you can figure that out then your abusers will no longer have the power to sabatogue your relationships.