prefabsprout, thank you. I did start seeing a therapist, but it didn't turn out very well, and I saw them for over half a year. I'll keep trying. I didn't think about emotional neglect. My therapist did say that my problems stem from my childhood, and I wasn't surprised, but to be honest, I suppose I don't really understand what that means or how it works. I think I'll try with another therapist and do some research on that.
Hopingtrying, thanks so much. I'll have a look at those books. I think seeing life in a more spiritual way could help.
Curry, thank you very much. I'm really glad the post helped you that way. Makes me feel better.
That sounds extremely harsh, telling someone that no one likes them. Not a good way to handle a separation, if I might speak my mind on that. Especially since he was the one who chose to marry you! The Las Vegas person sounded like a rebound to calm his hurt, I'd assume. Even if you separated, and it's obvious it was for the better, I'm sure he was going through a grieving process as well, and was not used to being alone. Seems like a lot of people take out their hurt on their exes after a separation. It's sad; I do wish people would break up peacefully, knowing it was for the best, and wishing the best for the other's future. I'm glad you have a boyfriend who likes you now.
I'm glad you're back to you, now. It can be hard keeping your chin up sometimes, and you forget what it's like to be happy until you get to your old self again. Well, at least for me.
I do like Wendy's shakes... I do have 2 cats that like me, especially my chubby furball of a cat who loves to be pet. I suppose when I'm the most down, I like to laugh and listen to music. It takes my mind off what's going on.
Jess2217, nice to meet you. Thanks for all the info! I'm glad you've been making progress with yourself.
I do think I should read about childhood emotional neglect. Thanks for the suggestions. I do have a lot of trouble with the areas you mentioned that you have.
I've been trying therapy, but so far it hasn't worked for me, and I haven't been diagnosed with anything. My whole family has anxiety, and many have depression and other diagnoses, so I wouldn't be surprised if I have it as well. I brought up getting a diagnosis with my last therapist, but they were very anxious about even starting the process and ignored it. I wonder if being diagnosed would make things better or worse for me, as my therapist mentioned social stigma, and seemed to hope that I'd overcome my problems without a diagnosis. Maybe he was right? I'm not sure. Now, my drive to get diagnosed has disappeared.
I have to admit, these posts have really helped me. Thank you all.
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