Jane, I'm sorry you are struggling with your mom. I've had my problems with my mom, too. We are used to looking at moms as being infallible. They most definitely are not. If we look at moms as having a whole set of psycological challenges like we have, it will help us to give them alot more room to be wrong. Sometimes we expect too much from them without giving serious consideration to their own hang ups. Love them anyway. Shalom.