i need some male perspective. if you read any of my other posts you can see im going crazy here. my boyfriend of 9 years just left me and i can't deal, and im trying to figure things out. to elaborate this is what he has told me. like i said we have been together for 9 years, he has told me he wants space to be by himself to figure things out. he said there is no other girl, and as far as i can tell he's telling the truth. he says he feels like hes at a crossroads, but doesn't explain the crossroads to me. he says he unhappy in general, not necessarily with me but just himself, and that if he can't be happy with himself he can't make me happy. he does suffer from depression, anxiety, and i suspect some form of bipolar. he never wants to get help and doesn't much talk to me about it, he would just complain. i do know he's also very stressed also and we have never lived together. he currently lives with his father who is a horrible alcoholic . he is in a band that he likes but they cause issues. he says he never has time for anything. the breakup was out of nowhere, and im so lost, this was someone i wanted to spend my life with. i was always supportive and tried to help him. do any of you guys out there think he come back to me? or what should i do? i've been freaking out this past month of this breakup, all i think is that i want him back. and i don't know what to do