Don't feel ashamed Lex you are not alone with this problem, first it could be a physical problem, such as: child birth could cause bladder weakness, or age, or in some cases over weight, please check it out with your dr. there are meds to help with this, if your in a real deep sleep and can't wake up it can happen too. Don't forget Micheal Langdon was a bedwetter your in good company lol, really though have dr check it out.
((((Hugs))))
Angie