Sounds like a nightmare. I experienced some aspects of what you went through. This gets as close to capturing the basic dynamic as anything I have come across:

"Transference is psychological interference that can never be ethical. It is a calculated abuse. Sure, it addresses itself as a functional abuse, one that must be in some way didactic, but it is in the transference where one of a person's most precious gifts, i.e. the ability to love for instance (and of course often too the erotic fantasy that goes along with it) seems so often exploited, toyed with, humiliated."

Exploited, toyed with, humiliated. Yep.