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Originally Posted by Erebos
When you realised, you never finished your post. 
If you can't stomach it, it's unlikely to change over time with this constant reminder of what he did.
More over it isn't the kids fault, if you plan on hanging around you will have to deal with this child eventually.
Can you see yourself able to be a step parent to them without feeling hurt or bitter. Because try as you might kids spot this stuff, no matter how hard you try.
Really do wish you all the best. |
Thanks Erebos, Crazy thing is its not that I can't stomach it, I became pretty comfortable with it overtime and being shown that he was pretty sure he wanted to be with me. I also come from a family who accepts everyone, especially kids whether step kids, outside kids (meaning of an affair), kids of friends and neighbors. So I can sit and play with her all day, she will be 3 on the 29th. Since he has changed his act on allowing her to be around me regardless of her moms wishes, I've been around her maybe 5 times and on FaceTime with her multiple times. She's a sweet little baby, what got to me though was the fact that she acts different around his sister, her aunt and this was a bother to me because you are right kids pick up on a lot and they notice a lot so i took that in consideration because it almost felt like she was looking at her aunt for an "approval". I hope that don't sound crazy, she even hugged me and slide off my lap after looking at her aunt. Idk what that's about but I was kinda heart broken and uncomfortable after that. Ik they have to converse with her mom but I really worry that they take sides or like her more than me since I've distanced myself or whatever the case. And his sister is not very mature for her age and I sometimes classify her as messy. We don't like or condone in the same things. So that is where some of my discomfort lies.