Wow, Rainbowzz, I sure understand why you are pissed off. On the one hand, this guy wants to control the birth of your baby, but on the other hand, he doesn't want to hold the baby once it's born? I think you are right to question whether you want him around.

This is your birth, and you and your doctor can work out an approach that manages your pain to the extent that you wish and that is safe for both you and your baby. If absentee Dad gets pissy about your decision, tell him to phone up the doctor so he hear from a medical professional about childbirth options and the approach you have chosen.