Sorry your child has such irresponsible father. In my experience though you can't make him see your daughter. You might be able to require certain heads up if he is going to cancel so you can make other plans. Maybe suggest that. But you cannot make himsee her or attend school meetings or in general be a better parent. Just very unfortunate but your lawyer is correct. There is nothing one can do. There are parents who NEVER exercise their visitation rights and no one can do anything