I'm sorry that that is how you interpreted what I said, I really am. It is not my intention to cause you pain or inflict blame. I just think that in order for us to heal from the things that happen to us, we also have to be honest with ourselves about our role in what happened. It doesn't mean it's your fault, but we all have growing to do. Anger towards other people may be justified, but it is only going to cause you pain in the long run. When something bad happens to me, I can't change what happened or what the other person thinks or feels, but I can work on myself, and that gives me a sense of control and strength. You are, at your core, a beautiful and amazing and strong person trying to figure out your way through the world. We all make mistakes, just like your friend did. At any rate, I apologize. If I had realized it would cause you harm I would not have said anything it at all. That was reckless on my part, and I am sorry. Wishing you healing and love. <3