Art, you aren't a failure for contacting her. You're hurting and you reached out to mend things. I think you've got a lot more going for you than your therapist does in this regard. There was nothing in what you reported that sounded like the relationship--going on 6 years--isn't fixable. Sheesh. I cracked my therapist's door and she gave me an ice pack. If your therapist wants to see "possessed," I'll go give her a preview.

I hope you find peace in this, whatever the outcome.