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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
I will admit, I have had this problem all be it I'm getting better at controlling it.
I used to have difficulties with talking in social settings because I had nobody to really properly teach me any better. I would either talk too quietly and people wouldn't be able to hear me or I would speak too loudly. I had a difficult time knowing any better and understanding why I'm wrong.
I was like this because of a combination of introversion, poor social skills, and a mother who wouldn't be inconvenienced to teach me how to do better, instead, preferring to lie to people about me having autism to excuse my behavior.
As an adult, I still struggle with this, although I have gotten much better. I usually have a quiet and rather cold sounding voice because I don't like drawing too much attention to myself, unless I'm around people that I know and feel comfortable around, in which case, I sometimes get excited and start talking very loudly and I have to sometimes have it pointed out to me because I don't do it intentionally.
So to answer your question, people who do this probably were either never taught any better, they probably don't realize they're doing it, or they simply don't care. I just thought I would try to give you a different perspective with my personal experience.
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I'm not particularly talking about people raising their voice when speaking (I'm sure I've been guilty of this too). It's more like justafriend said, shrieking or yelling without words. I usually see it when they are horse playing with their friends. Or they shout "OH MY GOD" at the top of their lungs. All while jumping around, sometimes on top of eachother. They also like to blare their music loudly.
Your situation sounds very different, and understadable. I have the problem where I speak so quietly that people have trouble hearing me. And I'm terrified to speak to people. I would say so long as you don't regularly scream "AHHHHHHHHH" at the top of your lungs for no reason, it's all good.
Side note: I think my social issues are the reason this bothers me so much. I feel awkward around people who are flamboyantly extroverted and social, because I don't understand it. It's like, do they ever just sit down and have a regular conversation with eachother? If not, wow.