nope, nope, nope. there are so many red flags here. I am also avoidant, and my T has NEVER held it against me, ever. I literally spent the last session hidden behind a pillow, which isn't the first time it has happened. Talk about being avoidant! She usually makes a joke that it is hard to do therapy when she cant' see me, but she is kidding around, and i know that she is okay with me hiding if that is what i need.

UGH. I think you need to not go back to her.